so when i suggested to Jason that for our 40th birthday we take his family out to dinner, he was a bit shocked. did we want to spend all the money??? was i sure i knew what i was doing??? would anyone even come even when we were paying??? i didn’t have the answer to those questions but i did try to explain that it really bothers me that i was so close with my mom and now she’s gone and here is Jason’s whole family right here and we are not close to them. there have been lots of things that have happened in the last 23 years and that is probably why we are not close, but life is simply too short to go through life not being close to your family. in the last year we have gone to see Susan and her family 3 times and rekindled that relationship; i have rekindled a relationship with Don’s wife Laurie and i’m working on others. i know that some will never be fixed, but i do know that i am going to try.